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Aaliyah’s Angels

Please prayerfully consider helping us in raising these funds to get Aaliyah’s dog. A seizure dog will allow Aaliyah to have more freedom. It will be able to accompany her everywhere and alert others if she is having a seizure; hopefully, even the ones that we can’t detect.

The Jest_Tu_Positive Life

Last week I shared our first guest post, which was submitted by a dear friend. Why We Need A Seizure Alert Dog inspired me to jump into our next Community Project. The Jest_Tu_Positive Life will be assisting in fundraising efforts to help Aaliyah get her Seizure Alert Dog, as soon as possible.

After researching several possibilities, I decided the first fundraiser I would like to attempt would be T-Shirts showing support for this extraordinary girl and the wonderful organization, which holds the power to change her life.

Thankfully, a friend recommended Booster for the fundraiser. Their staff is very thorough and great to work with. The best part is that when the campaign closes, they will deposit the funds directly to 4 Paws fundraising page for Aaliyah.

Here is the T-Shirt design, which has been approved by Aaliyah’s family and 4 Paws for Ability. Aaliyah's Angels

The gray shirt, which…

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ABCs Autism Style Index

I wanted to put all the ABC’s Autism Style entries into one post, so they can easily be viewed from A to Z. I am overjoyed to complete this project, because I can see how my writing has evolved in the past 16 months. This has been a wonderful project, which challenged me on many levels, and has provided me with a strong foundation for my next endeavor.

A HUGE Thank You to Marie for always believing in me, proofreading posts (when I had no confidence in myself), and honoring me with her perpetual support and inspiration. I love you Marie, and I would not be here without you, I thank God everyday for blessing me with such an extraordinary friend.

Intro to ABC’s Autism Style

A is for ACCEPTANCE        

B is for BEHAVIOR              

C is for COMMUNICATION

D is for DIFFERENT           

E is for ENVIRONMENT     

F is for FAMILY                  

G is for GRATITUDE           

H is for HAPPINESS                      

I is for INNOVATIVE          

J is for JUDGMENT          

K is for KNOWLEDGE         

L is for LOVE                                   

M is for MISSION           

N is for NEED                    

O is for OPTIMISM               

P is for PROGRESS             

Q is for QUALITIES             

R is for RESPECT                 

S is for SUCCESS                  

T is for THERAPY                 

U is for UNIQUE                  

V is for VALID                      

W is for WORRY                    

X is for XENOPHOBIA        

Y is for YEARN                      

Z is for ZEAL

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Z is for ZEAL

ABCs Autism Style Z

Z is for ZEAL

Zeal is defined as: “fervor for a person, cause, or object; eager desire or endeavor; enthusiastic diligence; ardor.” – Dictionary.com

Zeal is a perfect term to describe how Autistic people approach many aspects of life. When a person hones in on their Special Interests, they ignite a desire to learn everything about those topics. Autistic individuals zealously pursue their interests because knowledge, understanding, and experience in these areas provide them comfort and joy. These special interests can be utilized as a way of educating and teaching new concepts to children with Autism. When an Adult with Autism obtains work pertaining to their area of expertise, they become extremely valuable members of the companies they work for, and the communities in which those businesses operate.

When I observe members of the Autism community, I envy their ability to remain passionate about their interests, despite what life may throw their way. This quote by Edmond Mbiaka, is the best way I can convey my admiration for Autistic people, because they instinctively do what most of us struggle to achieve:

“We are all born with some great abilities to excel in all circumstances, but unfortunately, negative thoughts always tend to blindfold a lot of people from realizing their true potential in life. However, anyone can take back their true destiny by always challenging every thought that doesn’t keep their mind fully focused on the prize ahead.”

The Autistic adults in the world, like our children today, struggled with learning according to society’s standards of typical education. For all the negative thoughts and actions people have directed toward them, they remain passionate about the things they love, because they do not look at life the way most people do. It is an amazing gift, which should be treasured and applauded. We must be ever diligent to not change an Autistic person to fit societal norms, but simply assist them in learning how to navigate the world on their terms. Ignacio Estrada stated it perfectly: If a child can’t learn the way we teach; maybe we should teach the way they learn.”

As a parent of an extraordinary Autistic child, I am thankful for the different angles I now see the world from. I would not have these unique views without Beth and her amazing gifts, which stem from her Autism. Her road may not always be easy, and she will face all kinds of ugly in the world; however, she will persevere and she will remain passionate and full of life, because she is Au-Some.

Zeal “Our Way” is defined as: “One of the many blessings of  having Autism, because it allows the Autistic individual to always explore and cherish the subjects that speak to their heart, which brings them and those around them an immense joy.”

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Prayers and Love Nationwide

The past week was filled with immense tragedy for the Autistic community. Three children, Mikaela Lynch (age 9) in California, Owen Black (age 7) in Florida, and Drew Howell (age 2) in Ohio, died due to wandering and subsequent drowning. As their devastated families try to come to terms with their tremendous loss, there have been many ignorant people who dare to cast blame on them, and it is sickening. My heart is heavy with sadness for the loss of three young lives; and it is filled with outrage for those who carelessly judge what they cannot know and do not understand. Today I am joining hundreds of other bloggers to support these families by showering them with prayers and love via cyberspace.

 

Rest In Peace Sweet Angels * Mikaela Lynch * Owen Black *  Drew Howell

As a parent of an Autistic child, who is a wanderer, I know the terror you feel when you realize your child has slipped away. We have had several close calls with Beth in the past 2 years. I have learned the hard way that I cannot control people, places, or things; therefore, I do the best I can and pray that it is enough to keep her and Anne safe. Although, I have stopped blaming myself for past events, I relive each one of our close calls every time I hear of other families who were not as fortunate. I grieve for all the wonderful parents who have seen their worst nightmare come to life. In the blink of an eye, any of us could lose our child due to wandering/elopement and the dangers they face while out of our care.

For the Lynch, Black, and Howell families that is exactly what happened, in less than 30 seconds, their lives were forever changed in the most tragic of ways. They are NOT bad parents; they are NOT inattentive parents! They are humans, who did all that was in their power to keep their children safe. They LOVE their children, and probably blame themselves for the horrible accident that took them from this world, even though they are NOT to blame in anyway. They lost their Autistic Angels under the worst of circumstances, and are grieving their loss in ways that most us will never know or fully understand.

 

 

Please keep this in mind when you share and comment on posts regarding them and their Angels. Please attempt to put yourself in their place, and imagine how you would feel, then decide what you want to share. A general rule of thumb I use is the acronym THINK (T – Is it Thoughtful? H – Is it Honest? I – Is it Intelligent? N – Is it Necessary? K – Is it Kind?). If I can answer Yes to all those questions, then I hit submit/share; if the answer to just one is No, then I must step away and pray for guidance before I put my thoughts out in cyberspace. I am pleading with you to stop the spreading of cruel misinformation and judgment, instead help spread love and support for families in crisis. Please keep the Lynch, Black, and Howell families in your prayers today and in the future months. May Angels surround them in love and light as they grieve; and bring them hope that tomorrow it will hurt a little less.

 

 

If you would like to read some of the other wonderful posts that are part of An Outpouring of Love for the Mikaela Lynch Family, please visit the ever growing list of  amazing, informative  and touching blog posts.

If you would like more information about wandering/elopement and how to help keep the Autistic children in your community a little safer, please visit theNational Autism Association and the AWAARE Collaboration.

 

 

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Water Danger for Autistics

Water Danger for Autistics;  **The background image is property of Lindsey Schultz, who graciously granted permission for use to Jest_Tu_Positive.**

Another sobering statistic from National Autism Association: “Roughly half, or 48%, of children with an ASD attempt to elope from a safe environment, a rate nearly four times higher than their unaffected siblings.”

Autistic individuals are drawn to water. Parents of Autistic children do all they can to keep their children safe. Unfortunately, our kids have the ability to figure a way around almost every safeguard, and it only takes a few seconds for a child to disappear. Once they are on their own they follow whatever catches their interest, which usually leads them to water and danger. Please do not judge or attack the broken-hearted parents who just lost their beloved child.

Praying for the Lynch, Black and Howell families as they mourn Mikaela, Owen, and Drew; may they find solace in their loved ones, and know that the Autistic community is sending them love and support during this tragic time.

 

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Graduation 2013

On May 17, 2013 my husband will graduate college with an Associates of Applied Science degree and an Associates of Art degree, both in Criminal Justice. He started his College journey a month before his 18th birthday, and he will be 31years old when he graduates. It has been a long road for him, laden with countless obstacles and many scenic routes. He has been discouraged, felt like a failure, and assumed he could not do it; however, he yearned to finish college and obtain a degree. Eventually he found his courage, began to feel successful, and determined that he could do it; and now he is graduating with not one, but two degrees.

The last few semesters have not been easy; honestly, they were more difficult than we ever imagined. Being a father of 2 young children (one with Special Needs), working 40+ hours a week to support our family, and going to school proved to be quite the challenge. However if there is one thing I know about my husband, it is that he ALWAYS rises to a challenge and finds a way to CONQUER it.

On Friday evening I will watch him graduate; while taking lots of pictures to show our girls what an AMAZING man their daddy is. I am so very PROUD of him and all that he has accomplished. He is showing our girls that when you have a dream, you should pursue it until you have achieved your goal. He is teaching our girls that it doesn’t matter how long it takes you to fulfill your dreams; what matters is that you do it with integrity, and in a manner of which you can be proud. He is proving to our girls that ANYTHING is POSSIBLE, with determination and hard-work; which is truly one the GREATEST gifts a parent can give a child.

CONGRATULATIONS to my Husband, who overcame his doubts and fears, and is obtaining his degrees in 2013.  This is a GREAT year for you, and a major building block in the foundation of our life. You are an AMAZING inspiration, and a source of tremendous PRIDE to many! Our girls are truly BLESSED to have such a wonderful, hard-working father who embraces dreams and turns them into reality. Our family will achieve many EXTRAORDINARY things in life, because you will always be there to help us make our dreams come true. Thank You for all that you are, and all that you do! I LOVE YOU!

Graduation 2013

 

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3 More for the Dobrovits Family

On April 11th, I shared the next path in the amazing journey of the Dobrovits family. If you did not see the post, you can read it here.

As you can imagine, the cost of bringing the 3 new members of the family home, will be quite high. A wonderful friend of the family has created an auction page on FaceBook to help fundraising efforts for the Dobrovits’ adoption of Susan, Edmond and Lucy.

Carla's Children

Please help the Dobrovits family raise the funds they need to adopt their newest children, as quickly as possible. Once they bring them home, they can make sure their children receive the medical care necessary for them to thrive in life. Please help  Susan, Edmund and Lucy come home to the family who loves them, and cannot wait to hold them.

Please LIKE the page:  Auction-3 More for the Dobrovits Family and SHARE it with your friends. The Auction, which already has 60+ items, and is still growing,  will run from Sunday April 28th to Sunday May 5th.

A quote from one of Carla’s posts: “International Special Needs Adoption is not just “cute” or “sweet”… It is RESCUE and REDEMPTION!!! Thank you to everyone who is helping and praying for us!!!”

 

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