Y is for YEARN
Yearn is defined as: “1. to have an earnest or strong desire; long: to yearn for a quiet vacation…” – Dictionary.com
In my opinion, Yearning is double-edged sword. It can be the force that drives you to achieve things that you may have thought impossible. It can also be the force that drives you rob yourself and loved ones of the simple joys of life. Many parents dream of their children having “normal” and “easy” lives. While there is nothing wrong with this dream per say, we must always remember these terms are relative, based on one’s outlook in life. We must remain vigilant that Our dreams for Our children are based on Our family values and abilities; not on what we perceive others to have.
There are days when I mourn the “easy” and “care-free” life I desperately wanted my children to have. There were facets of my childhood, which caused me to lose that innocent, child-like view of the world at much too early an age. When I had children, I prayed their road would be different, and they would stay kids as long as possible. I wanted to shield them from the ugliness of the world; but as my father has helped me see, I cannot put them in bubbles, they need to see the world for all it is, good and bad, in order to have a firm footing on their path.
Having a child with Autism and/or other Special Needs is not “easy” and it certainly is not “care-free.” Our journey is not considered “normal” by society’s standards, but for us it is filled with many blessings as we find Our version of “normal.” Unfortunately, belonging to the wonderful Special Needs community also opens us up to an abundance of ignorance and ugly. I Yearn for a time when ALL individuals are treated with Love and Respect, and celebrated for their diverse abilities. I dream of a time when my girls will be eager to show the world all their Unique and Extraordinary qualities. I pray for a time when they can recognize their areas of struggle, but proudly say Progress NOT Perfection, and keep chasing whatever they feel passionately about, in a way that works for them. In the words of Helen Keller: “I seldom think about my limitations, and they never make me sad. Perhaps there is just a touch of yearning at times; but it is vague, like a breeze among flowers.”
We all have various limitations. We all have diverse abilities. We all have different dreams, and thoughts on how to achieve those dreams. Perhaps Our dream is to live a simple life filled with Love and Laugher. Perhaps Our dream is to blaze a path into the unknown and teach the world something new. Whatever Our dream is, whatever Our children’s dreams are, we must accept that Yearning can be a great motivator, when viewed realistically through our soul. We must never stop pursuing our dreams, because they will take us magnificent places. “Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” — Harriet Tubman
Yearn “Our way” is defined as: “A calling in Our Heart, and a passion in Our Soul, which fuels Our desire to fulfill our dreams, by building on our strengths and creating new ways to overcome our limitations.”
Autism Proud – Journey With Us – by Jest Tu Positive by Dorothy Stronglove is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.