V is for VALID
Valid is defined as: “1. sound; just; well-founded: a valid reason. 2. producing the desired result; effective: a valid antidote for gloom…” – Dictionary.com
Nowadays in our society, there seems to be this need for everyone to be right, and better than the next person. If you are single, it is about having the more prominent job and valuable stuff. If you are married, it is about having the more exceptional relationship and bigger house. If you have children, it is about being more effective parents and having children who surpass the rest in every way. There appears to be this constant need for validation, that most feel can only be achieved by proving that they are far superior to others. This mindset, and its subsequent behaviors, is something that honestly baffles me. Our approach to life, and all its scenic journeys, is valid for Us, if it works for Our family. The validity of our choices is not dependent on the beliefs or actions of others. This bible verse states it perfectly: “Each of you must examine your own actions. Then you can be proud of your own accomplishments without comparing yourself to others. Assume your own responsibility.” – Galatians 6:4-5 (God’s Word ® Translation)
Each of us is unique, as is our journey in life. Some of us may walk similar paths, but just as no two people are exactly alike, no two journeys will ever be perfect mirrors either. We are diverse in our beliefs, feelings, and experiences; which causes us to have varying approaches to almost everything in life. When we compare ourselves to others, we do ourselves, and the person we are praising or criticizing, a great disservice. We can never truly know what motivates people to take the different paths they choose. Judging them and their choices as wrong, simply because it is different than ours, only fuels the spread of negativity, misinformation and prejudice. This is one of the reasons, I dislike the terms right and wrong, because those concepts are extremely subjective. Different choices are not right or wrong, they are simply different; however they are valid for the person making the choice at that time. We can choose countless approaches to life, traveling a labyrinth of diverse paths, and still end up in the same spot as many other people. Our paths are not better or worse than others, they are simply unique to us and the decisions which were best for Our family at that time. What is true to our beliefs and how we wish to see our children progress in this world, will not always match what our family, friends or society desire; however, that is the beauty of our world, we don’t have to agree with others, we simply have to know that our choices are true to the values and dreams Our family strives for. In the words of Arthur Schopenhauer: “The difficulty is to try and teach the multitude that something can be true and untrue at the same time.”
Valid “Our Way” is defined as: “Making decisions based on Our beliefs and vision for Our family, whether it be trivial or significant choices, as long as they work for Our family, they are the true path for us.”
Autism Proud – Journey With Us – by Jest Tu Positive by Dorothy Stronglove is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.