P is for PROGRESS
Progress is defined as: “1. movement forwards, especially towards a place or objective 2. satisfactory development, growth, or advance…” – Dictionary.com
“Progress not Perfection” is one of my favorite Al-Anon slogans, and has become one of my personal mantras. It reminds me that life does not have to be perfect but it simply needs to progress and grow. We tend to put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect and do all the “right” things, but the world will not end if we are simply human. Instead of stressing ourselves out, trying to achieve perfection, we need to relax and enjoy our lives. Everyone makes mistakes, and that is okay. Sometimes we have the best experiences as a result of a perceived mistake. As we strive to embrace all the possibilities of our journey, this quote always makes me smile: “A mistake a day keeps my perfectionism at bay.” – Hope for Today
Once we let go of the idea of being perfect, life just becomes simpler and more enjoyable. As parents we want everything to be perfect for our children. We want our children to be well-mannered geniuses who amaze everyone they meet. There is so much pressure to have the “perfect” family that it is easy to forget that perfection is not all it’s cracked up to be. Our family is far from perfect, we are a “work in progress” and I would not have it any other way. Sometimes we take two steps forward and three steps backward. We usually have to try several approaches to a situation before we find the right one for us. Most of the time what works for us seems like pure craziness to everyone else. We have no problem with “crazy” around here, because “normal” is just so boring. Life is Life, there is no manual, there is no black and white, there simply “is” and what we make of it. So why not make it Fun and Au-Some? We take what we need from each experience and use it as a lesson learned for future endeavors. This is the way we attempt to view life, and this is the way we should teach our children to view life. Let them know that they simply need to be themselves, learn, grow and shine in their own special way. Let us not burden our children with the notion of perfection, but empower them with the concept of progress. In the words of Mark Victor Hansen: “Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.”
Progress “Our Way” is defined as: “Spiritual, Emotional and Intellectual growth as a result of living without preconceived notions, and therefore learning from all our experiences.”
Autism Proud – Journey With Us – by Jest Tu Positive by Dorothy Stronglove is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.