N is for NEED.
Need is defined as: “A need is something that is necessary for organisms to live a healthy life. Needs are distinguished from wants because a deficiency would cause a clear negative outcome, such as dysfunction or death. Needs can be objective and physical, such as food, or they can be subjective and psychological, such as the need for self-esteem. On a social level, needs are sometimes controversial.” – Wikipedia
What do we truly NEED in our life? On the most basic level, we need shelter from the elements and nourishment for our bodies. On a spiritual level, we need love and nourishment for our souls. Everything after that starts to head into the gray areas of life, which is why “needs are sometimes controversial.” Every person is different, so it makes sense that their needs would be different too. For one person companionship may be a necessity, but for another it may be a luxury. I suppose that is why there will always be a debate about what is truly a need and what is simply a want. I don’t think you should have to choose between the two, and I feel that they are both equally important to living a healthy, happy and balanced life. Perhaps fulfilling, or at least the goal of fulfilling, our needs and wants are what make us the wonderfully unique individuals we are; and when you combine us all, you have a spectrum of amazing people, places and things.
As children we do not understand the difference between a need and a want, we simply know what is necessary for us to feel good. As we grow into adults we start to weigh everything and tend to over think our goals and options way too much. Then when we become parents, we really start to analyze every thought and action, to make sure we are doing all the “right” things for our children to thrive. If our children have special needs, then it appears to become even more important that we “do the right things” for them and our family. It is amazing that we don’t all walk around with headaches from the constant overdrive our brains are in! Why is it so important to do the “right” thing? Sometimes doing the “wrong” (or what is perceived as the wrong) thing yields much better results. I think the best way to look at life is through the eyes of a child; with their simplicity, honesty and faith. I feel that we need to get away from the “right versus wrong” mentality, and move towards the “accountability and responsibility” way of thinking. We should follow our heart and guts when making decisions and taking action. Our only concern should be what works for us and our family. We should teach our children to follow their instincts, trust themselves and put their health and happiness above any silly standard society attempts to impose. We must always be accountable for actions, and take responsibility for the outcome, but sometimes that just means celebrating the fact that we made a great judgment call!
Need “Our Way” is defined as; “Whatever it takes to help us achieve the healthy, happy lifestyle we dream of for ourselves and our children; which fills all our tomorrows with hope, love and faith.”
Autism Proud – Journey With Us – by Jest Tu Positive by Dorothy Stronglove is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.