L is for LOVE.
Love is defined as: “an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment. Love is also a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection; and “the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. Love may also be described as actions towards others or oneself based on compassion, or as actions towards others based on affection.” – Wikipedia
Although, I feel that you cannot truly define “Love” because it is different for everyone; I do believe the purest love is that of a parent for their child. We love our children in the most basic, unconditional, faithful way possible. It is a love that people dream of and write beautiful literature about. If we convey this abiding love to our children, they will be blessed to grow basking in its warmth and promise, as they also spread the glorious wonder of unconditional love to the world. In the words of Eden Ahbez: “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.”
Love is gift we can give ourselves and everyone in our lives. We can even love the people who test us most and bring us sadness, for to love them is to prevent the spreading of negativity and hate. Love, a true abiding love, should not be conditional. We can love a person, but not like them, at the same time. If someone is toxic to you or your family, then remove that negativity from your life; but forgive that person and pray for them. God does not stop loving us, regardless of what we do, and that is how I feel we should view the world. We can say “I will not tolerate unacceptable behavior” which will cause us to exclude people from our life; however, we can still love and wish wonderful things for those people. Although what constitutes “unacceptable behavior” varies from person to person; there is one universal truth and that is… Holding toxic, negative thoughts in yourself, and harboring ill-will toward another because of their ignorance, intolerance or abusive behavior does not hurt anyone but you. In the face of hate, LOVE and your world will a better place.
As I work my Al-Anon program and attempt to promote the positive side of Autism, I am starting to see people and the world in a very different light. I see people who are doing the best they can with the tools they have. Perhaps they only know how to be negative, and positivity scares them. Perhaps they have been hurt too much and cannot open their heart to the possibility of love for all. Perhaps they simply prefer to stay in their own world and cannot accept truth, hope and faith. Whatever their beliefs, views, religion, personality, etc… it is theirs to do with what they please. Not everyone can be friends, but that does not mean they must be enemies. We must always be aware of the people in our lives and the affect they have on us. We should choose to surround ourselves with people who are positive, loving and supportive; because that is what we need to live a healthier spiritual life. “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.” – 1 John 4:7 New International Version (NIV)
Love “Our Way” is defined as: “A precious, abiding gift we give ourselves and all those who cross our path. We share the gift of positive thought, light, hope, faith, acceptance and pure love for all; as we embrace diversity, and wish everyone a blessed life.”
Autism Proud – Journey With Us – by Jest Tu Positive by Dorothy Stronglove is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.