I is for INNOVATIVE.
Innovative is defined as: “using or showing new methods, ideas, etc…” – Dictionary.com
I have never considered myself a particularly creative or innovative person. I have never excelled at thinking “outside the box.” My husband on the other hand, has one of the best imaginations I have ever witnessed, but has a very hard time letting the kids be kids. He is a worry-wart, who desperately needs to calm down. I think this is one of the reasons God blessed us with Beth. She challenges us, and keeps us on our toes. She forces us to go “outside of the box” and discard our preconceived notions of “normal behavior.” There is not much that is “typical” about our life, but she gives us a view of the world that is wondrous and extraordinary. Since her sister is very determined to be as crafty as her, we can honestly say that between Beth (our ASD girl) and Anne (our NT girl) life is never boring; it is one amazing roller-coaster ride, which we would not trade for anything. We are truly thankful for all the hills and valleys because they make the ride interesting.
While we are on the topic on Innovative, I must say that I have never met any adult that can come close to matching the innovation of a child, special needs or not; kids are the most resourceful, resilient, creative, determined people I know. They do not know the rules of engagement yet, therefore they have no fear of failure. It is a wonderful gift to be able to see the world through the eyes of a child. There is no right or wrong, there simply “is.” At least once a day one of my children will do something that makes me stop and say: “Huh, I would have NEVER thought of that, aren’t you a little smarty-pants?” Now these things are not always good, and sometimes I really wish they had not figured them out, but hey what are a few more gray hairs at this point in the game? HeeHee.
Our children are intelligent, creative and resourceful human beings, who want to be independent. As a parent we want to protect our kids and help them with everything. We struggle with this a LOT, but when we step-back and let our kids figure things out on their own, we are almost always pleasantly surprised by their innovative, problem-solving skills. They may not get it on the first try, but they always get it done eventually. We think perhaps it is time to throw away the “rules of life” book and try it “Free-Style” for a while. We want to listen to our children and allow them to teach us. When we let our children lead us, the road of life is filled with endless promise; we have only to imagine the possibilities.
Innovative “Our Way” is defined as: “Deciding what works best for us as a family, creating the guidelines as we go; while allowing our children to help us see the big picture in the innocent, extraordinary way that only they can teach us.”
Autism Proud – Journey With Us – by Jest Tu Positive by Dorothy Stronglove is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.